5 New Parent Stay at Home Date Nights

Earlier today, I was writing up a post all about my thoughts on the Simplified Planner.

Let me know if you still would like to see the post.

Long story short, the computer crashed and autosave didn’t save my writing, so good-bye post!

Anyway, with Valentine’s Day coming up, I thought this was as good a time as any to talk in-house date nights! For us, right now, must date nights consist of either quick outings, lunch out with our third little wheel, or staying home.

We are trying not to spend too much money for various reasons, so getting creative is key! We’ve done a few of these at home date nights already, but not all of them. Writing this post is as much for me as it is for you guys!

Movie night

Hello, Redbox! You are our new best friend!

It’s not often that we stay up late snacking on popcorn, candy, drinks, and generally all things you try to avoid on a daily basis. Sometimes, though, it’s just too good to pass up.

We will put the baby to bed, make all our treats, settle in and press play! First, and most importantly, it’s WAY cheaper than going to the movie theater! You can have all the food you WANT to eat, keep your lights on or off, watch the movie at your pace, etc. Hello, bathroom breaks, food/drink breaks, dogs need to go outside breaks.

Secondly, we can watch the movie in our pajamas and under warm blankets! You really can’t get any better than that!

Bonus: You can still get to bed before 10PM!

Can I get a whoo-hoo?!

Romantic dinner

Let’s just get this out of the way, all of these allow you to put the kid(s) down BEFORE date night.

Now that that’s out of the way, this dinner can be anything. Homemade, takeout, leftovers, whatever! Sit down together, with distractions turned off (phones, TV, computers). Light a couple of candles and talk.

If you’re stuck in a rut, or just want to talk about something other than your day/kids/upcoming events, I found something that might help! It’s called The 36 Questions That Lead to Love from the NY Times.

It might seem silly or weird, but you never know, maybe it’ll spark a longer conversation!

Picnic on the floor

Like the romantic dinner, turn off all the distractions. Throw a blanket and pillows on the floor, grab picnic foods and drinks, and enjoy!

If it’s warm enough, you could also head out to the backyard and watch the sunset or stars. Just pick a spot, toss a blanket down, and voila–date night!

Bonus: Because you’re home, you can spilt a bottle of wine and not worry about getting fined for public consumption! Win-win!

Game Night

There are TONS of 2 person games out there now! Card games (Karma, 5 Crowns, gin), board games (Scrabble, Ticket to Ride), even game apps (Heads Up) that require interaction between players.

Pick one or two, grab a couple of treats, and enjoy. We don’t do this one often, but the times that we do, the night gets away from us and we end up going to bed SUPER late.

Laundry night

Lastly, laundry night. I know, I know. Alaina, that doesn’t sound fun or even like a date night at all.

You’re right, maybe right now it doesn’t, but you can fold laundry doing just about anything–talking, watching TV, answering emails…so why not fold the laundry together. It’ll get done faster because there are 2 of you AND no one is stuck the next day folding by themselves.

That never-ending pile of laundry shrunk for 2 seconds. YAY! 

Wouldn’t that feel good?

You could do this with just about any chore, if laundry isn’t your big issue. Cleaning the kitchen, bathrooms, organizing an area of the home… I could go on and on!

The whole point to this post is that you can tweak date nights, save money, stay at home, and still enjoy yourselves! You can get things done AND spend time (quality time) together. It’s just a few little things, but the little things do add up and slowing down together might be just what you both needed!

If you have any date night ideas, leave them in the comments of this post! Remember, sharing is caring!

parent weekend

Life Blip | First Parent Weekend Away

For Christmas, I gifted my husband an adults only trip to the mountains. I was equally excited and terrified all at once. Mr. Baby was a new 3 months old, had had some tough days, and we had never been away from him for more than a few hours. I cringe thinking about me thinking about that weekend.

We handed the baby to his grandparents, I wrote out every single detail I could think of, said goodbye a dozen times, and then we were on our way!

That first night I couldn’t stop thinking about all things Baby and was checking my phone several times a…minute (if we are being honest!). I woke up at midnight and 2AM thinking I heard him crying and then was up for the day at 6:30AM.

I spent that Saturday hanging out in the ski lodge bar with friends drinking, eating, and laughing. I kept looking down at the ground only to find an empty space where the carseat should have sat.

By 7PM, I was exhausted in a hangout, have fun, and no responsibilities kind of way. I was asleep by 8:30PM and didn’t wake up until 8:30AM. IT. WAS. GLORIOUS!

Our final day in the mountains, Sunday, was laidback and relaxing. We picked up the baby and dogs and were home by 4. On our way home, we committed to having a kid free weekend twice a year, but striving for once a quarter. Prior to having kids, I had heard people say that getting away for 48 hours was fantastic for themselves and their relationships, with both the kids and partner. I didn’t totally understand it, but now…oh boy! I’m already wanting to plan our next getaway.

Send me your thoughts on places to go and things to do! Also, does anyone send their child/children away for the weekend and just  stay home? Or do you have someone come to the house to watch them and  stay in a hotel in the same town?

As for photos of our mountain trip, I have none. Our phones barely worked and we were bundled up in coats and winter gear, so pulling out our phones wasn’t really thought of.

As for photos of the baby during our mountain trip? You better believe that I have those!

Look at that little face!